Anonymous asked: Okay, so I have a boyfriend. And he's amazing, he's everything that I've ever wanted in a boyfriend and I love him more than anything. The problem is my mom. We're Chinese, so she's completely against me dating in high school because she basically doesn't want me to think about anything but school, and piano, and SATs and all that crap all the time. She technically doesn't really know that he's my official boyfriend, but she kind of does... It's a very complicated situation, but anyway...I really just want to be able to go on a real date with him, alone, but my mom won't let me be alone with a boy. Because she's INSANE. Don't get me wrong, I love my mom and everything, but she's just so hard to live with. Am I right to think her rules are insane? Or am I the one who's wrong? Also, I've been considering breaking up with him lately, because it's so selfish of me to drag him into this. Like, why should he not be able to go on a real date because of MY mom's rules? It just doesn't seem fair to him. I really really don't want to, but should I break up with him?I don't know what I should do. Help?

First of all, don’t break up with him. If you’re happy with him and you love him, then you shouldn’t break up with him. I’m sure he understands, and doesn’t think you’re selfish.

Now about your mom, try calmly talking to her about it. Maybe make a deal with her, like if she let’s you go, you promise to keep your grades up, practice piano, study, etc. 

If that doesn’t work, then I really don’t know what to to tell you, except to maybe try sneaking out or something.

-Jessa

xoxo