Anonymous asked: There is a guy who i've liked for several months now, we'll call him dave, but he has a girlfriend. I made a point of being just friends with him and we have become pretty good friends, but we have been a bit flirty at times. It always seemed harmless enough and he isn't the type to cheat, but I still always felt a little bit guilty. Anyway, as school is coming to the close, a mutual friend of ours recently had her heartbroken when her feelings weren't reciprocated by a guy and I mentioned to Dave that I felt really sorry for her because it sucks genuinely liking someone who doesn't feel the same and he made a point of saying that he felt that way now, but he wouldn't consider leaving his girlfriend unless "this girl" told him that she wanted to be with him first. Now, if i did put myself out there and it wasn't me he was referring too, I would feel really really stupid. I'm also kind of bothered by the idea that he would like someone else, while he has a girlfriend, even if he wouldn't cheat its still a little shady, but I do really like him and I don't see those feelings disappearing anytime soon.

What do you think I should do?

This is a really tough situation.

It seems to me like he was probably meaning you, or he probably wouldn’t have told you, but the fact that he would leave his girlfriend for someone else makes me think, what if he does the same to you?

My advice, just trust what you’re feeling. Do you trust him? If the answer is yes, then tell him how you feel, and trust that if you start a relationship with him, he won’t do the same to you. If you’re not sure, my advice is to take a risk, because who knows, maybe he’s the one for you. You may get hurt, but you will get over it if that happens, and if you don’t take the risk, you’ll probably always be asking yourself.. what if?

If it turns out he didn’t mean you, then life goes on. It will hurt but you just have to be strong, and continue waiting for the right person.

-Jessa

xoxo