Anonymous asked: Please help me. Okay so I dont know where to start but, here goes: So im in middle school in 8th grade and I moved from my mom to my dad in 6th grade. we started living in a small town where eveyrone knew each other and i had a difficult time trying to find my group of friends and fitting in at first,. i wasn;'t sure who i was a lot of the time and i kept switching friends a lot. in the beginning of 7th grade i had a nice group of friends that i was getting close with but we kept having fights a lot of them, and eventually separated. That same year, i also became anorexic probably to deal with the stress of my friendship problems. SO i spent the rest of my entire 7th grade and summer battling this disease, and i had no friends. Come 8th grade and i had some trouble adjusting myself to recovery and finding actual friends...Finally i made great friends that i thought actually liked me and we became really close and i felt accepted and loved, then ...it all broke apart. Apparently some out of the four of us friends , 2 girls felt that i was "taking away" the other friend for myself. Which i wasnt. So they ALL stopped talking to me. VERY suddenly. and i was so extremely heart broken..I tried to be strong. Still am actually. Im trying to find New friends, so i started to talk to this girl i was friends with last year and we are having fun together and what not and i was actually feeling hopeful, when her OLD best friend starts posting status updates about "missing her best friend" and "crying over her best friend" and i feel like it's all my fault. Like Im the fucking brick wall between them...and I JUST WANT TO KNOW. WHAT'S WRONG WITH ME? WHY CANT I MAKE GOOD FRIENDS? I just need someone..anyone...im sorry if i sound illiterate. I swear I know spelling and grammar, but I just have to get it all out quickly before i explode....

I’m sorry that you’re going through this. Starving yourself is never a good way to deal with things. Please don’t resort to this again.

My advice is that if you really feel this way, and want to remain friends with her, why don’t you try being friends with her old best friend as well? 

You can have more than one best friend. (:

Also, there is absolutely nothing wrong with you, you just have to be patient. You will find friends who will love you the way you are eventually <3

-Jessa

xoxo