Anonymous asked: How should I start a conversation with my crush? He's 2 grades under me and he's real chill. I've seen him around school but I haven't actually talked to him. I've only said hi once to ask for his name in the beginning of the year. We have a lot of mutual friends but the chance to talk to him never seems to appear. :(

Next time you see him, just try approaching him. Say hi, maybe ask him about music, sports, something you think he’d be interested in. Try to find some common ground so the conversation will be less awkward. :) 

xoxo, Jessa.

Anonymous asked: how do i ask this guy i've been texting to be friends w/ benefits? :)

I don’t really believe in friends with benefits, so I’ve never really had to deal with anything like that, but my best advice is to just come out and directly ask.

xoxo,
Jessa.

Anonymous asked: i like this guy and he says he likes me too. we've hooked up before but then like 2 weeks later he hooked up with my friend and apparently told her not to tell me. i thought that if he liked me then he wouldnt have kissed my friend and i dont know what to do now :(

aww, I’m so sorry that happened. :( First of all though, find someone better. He’s not worth your time, you don’t deserve to treated like that. I know it probably hurts, but if he hooked up with someone else and told them not to tell you,chances are he’ll keep doing that, if you ever forgive him and get together. Second, I think you may want to re-evaluate your friendship with this girl. She may have been honest with you, but a true friend would have never hooked up with the guy you like.

xoxo,

Jessa.

p.s. sorry if there’s any typos. My cat apparently wanted to help me give you advice. 

Anonymous asked: Is there any way to get over the death of someone you love?

Honestly, not really. I mean you slowly get to the point where it doesn’t affect you constantly, and you’re not sad and thinking about it all the time. The best you can do is to just let yourself grieve, let things go back to normal, and try to find stuff that will distract you from being sad all the time. When you do get sad, try to think about the happy moments you had with that person, and how they probably wouldn’t want you to be upset.

xoxo, 
Jessa. 

Anonymous asked: I'm on spring break with a friend and her grandparents let us stay at their house to save money... My friend said they're really cool and wouldn't really care what we did. Well, they won't let us out past 9pm or go anywhere by ourselves at all. We're both 19 years old, so it's not like we're 14. I'm pissed because I'm spending hundreds of dollars on this trip and I'm in hell. We don't even smoke or drink... Any ideas on what to do? We've tried talking to them, but they don't listen.

I honestly don’t know how to deal with this. It’s not like they can physically stop you right? Maybe sneak out, or just go do whatever you want. If they say anything about it, tell them you’re not a child and don’t need to be babysat. If that doesn’t work, then honestly, the only thing I can think of would be to just try and get somewhere else to stay if you can. 

Any of my followers have any better ideas? :| 

verdepenguins asked: But like if your not physically attracted to them, its kinda hard to like them. What do I do? I know hes perfect for me but like IDK

Not really, I mean if they’re like unhygenic or something like that then i understand, but otherwise you just have to look past whats on the outside and learn to love what’s on the inside. Say you fell in love with someone and they had an accident that permanently disfigured them, or they gained alot of weight, is that going to change the fact that you’re in love with their personality? I really hope your answer to that would be no. 

If you think he’s perfect for you, and you REALLY like him, and can see yourself falling in love with him, then stay with him, maybe try being more sexual with him and hope he does the same with you?

xoxo,
Jessa. 

verdepenguins asked: So i really like this guy who is super respectful and I have a lot in common with him. But like when we makeout its not like an amazing feeling. Hes cute but like I don't find him super attractive. Like to be honest I'm really pretty and I could probably be with any guy I want or am attracted to. Should i settle with this guy? I mean I really am attracted to bad boys who are sexual. He's not rly the sexual type. He just likes to hang out with me and the sexual stuff is a plus. I'm 16 and he's 18

Honestly, I think you shouldn’t be with someone just for their looks, if you really like their personality then looks shouldn’t matter. Though, if he’s not actually your type, and you don’t actually like him in a romantic sense, and you’re just settling for him because he’s there, then you should probably just try to be friends with him, and break up with him asap, because the longer you let this continue, the more emotionally attached to you he will get, and it’s only going to hurt him more.

xoxo,

Jessa.

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